Mother’s Day is not always a Hallmark Card or the image of a Norman Rockwell family gathering. Mother’s Day can bring some mother’s painful memories of their own childhood; heartaches from memories of a lost child; emphasize an on-going delicate problem between mother and child at the current moment, or create feelings of resentment and hostility if the day is steeped in obligatory motions.
Every family has their own problems, their own torments, their own joys. What makes one mother weep for joy at a simple hand-drawn picture of a flower will cause another abusive mother to berate the child for stupidity. Some mothers have a compulsion to show-off their gifts as in competition; others really want nothing but a couple hours of peace and solitude.
Wise children, who truly love their mother and want to honor her, will be successful no matter what they do. There is no substitute for strong mother-child relationships and lucky are the families who have been successful at building them. On Mother’s Day, they have free reign to do as much as they want!
Wise mothers, who love their children, but understand the demands of work and school and lack of funds, will be happier with a gift of a personal nature than one purchased in a store. She will probably be ecstatic at having dinner prepared for her, or be given a personal manicure or pedicure, or just an evening of fun and games with her children.
The simple truth about Mother’s Day is there is no “one size fits all” gift, service, saying, or action. The best way someone can honor their mother this year (if they truly want to) is to put themselves in her shoes and truly understand what she likes and what she doesn’t and act accordingly. This isn’t a competition day; it will not make you a loser (and them the winner) if your answer to someone on what you did for your mom was “a back rub,” when they bought a Mom’s charm bracelet for $300.
Trading Cradles wishes all you amazing Moms a Happy Mother’s Day!